merry age

"thank god for mom and dad
For sticking two together
'Cause we don't know hooowww..."

-Hey Ya by Outcast

salam.

ahaa, walaupun aku xberapa minat nak bincang marriage as a whole tapi aku tertarik ngan entry bawah ni.

orang2 tua time wedding suka la kata ngusik n cucuk jarum kata "u're next!"  yelah maybe saja2 suka tapi terasa hati gak cmne kan.. tapi xpe, nanti kalau ada funeral ke apa kita leh tease dorang balik cakap " you're next!" >,<" hehe.. (kidding je nih, jangan buat btol2)

bagi aku, maybe ada some marriages yang tak berapa nak bahagia. sebab life bukan mcm fairytale yang tamat bila princess da kawen ngan prince lepas dapat bunuh naga. maybe time yang korang nampak marriage life yang tgh tunggang langgang tu bila dorang having their rough time, but after that.. mungkin dugaan tu gak yg buat dorang akn lebih matang n much much better for their spouse.

The first is not always the best, unless u're lucky. Tapi brp org je dlm dunia ni yg boleh lucky slalu n dapat apa yg dorang rancang dan nak. dalam cerita mitos dongeng Romeo and Juliet pun (ke apa genre ni?) Juliet bukannya Romeo's first love. If you're someone's first love then you're lucky, but if you're someone's last love you're even more luckier, apatah lagi someone's first and last love. Tapi, halalkan 'cinta-la-sgt' korang tu dengan jalan yang betul. istikharah banyak2. it starts from there. kalau solat pun tak cukup, macam mana nak imam kan bini ngan anak2..

aku setuju nak kawen kena ada knowledge, komitmen, and love alone bukan boleh kasi anak2 korang makan pon. jangan becinta bagai nak rak sangat, nanti dah kawen lain pulak. besederhana lah. jangan jadi selfish, sebelum start relationship, terima orang seadanya, for the guys, cari perempuan yang rasa2 boleh jaga family, mak bapak korang skali nanti.. jaga hati, jaga pasaan. for the girls, find a guy yang family dia ko leh sayang macam family sendiri juga, treat his mom like ur own mother. fikir masa depan, fikir anak-anak korang, bukan fikir korang punya cintan cintun skang je lepastu sepah2 anak merata2 bila something bad happen tu yang turn out jadi bohsia and mat rempit. they lack of love,because you're selfish, tak nak pegang komitmen and lack of knowledge.

so start from now, try sikit2, build yourself dulu,cari ilmu, jadi orang yang baik, orang yang beriman insyaallah because the children will come from both of you. tak suruh ko jadi perfect baru leh kawen, tapi as long as both of u you nak sama2 belajar, that's even much more sweeter dari ko belaja sorang2. we have to complete each other lah, dari semua aspek. tak semestinya kena sama, tapi kena melengkapi lah. for example my dad suka main golf, my mom boleh teman pergi driving range pukul bola sama2. my mom suka tanam pokok bunga, my dad boleh teman pergi nursery or pameran bunga sama2 sekali jugak. then they will develope the same hobby, or at least pon, bagi support and tolerate each other.

and the most important thing is, i think, the aim of life. kalau sayang macam mana pun tapi kalau aim tak sama, susah. let say he wants her wife to be fully housewife, jaga anak2.. takecare every detail of the household while She is very ambitious and wont give up the job. kan masalah. tapi the most important is, aim kita bukan kat dunia je, aim for the next life also, insyaallah.  the key to happiness is doing the thing you like with the one you love =)

and, ada banyak je marriage kat luar sana yang bahagia sampai mati. why do we keep looking at the negative side untuk jadikan pengajaran.. look at our parents je, thru thick and thin, they're still together insyaallah sampai mati. and one time, mak aku penah cakap - she hopes that my dad dies first so that she can take care of him till his last breath. kalau aku, aku cakap, aku nak mati dulu sebab tak nak tengok orang yang aku sayang tinggalkan aku *dang* see how selfish i am. tapi sejak tu perspektif aku da berubah. -.-" so please have faith.

okay,jom. ada kelas.sorry kalau tulisan ni berterabo sangat. otak aku jem sket. oh btw, no offense,entry ni bukan nak mengugat sapa2,, ni my personal opinion gak je k.tata